The Great Stepper
by Richard St.James
The Great Stepper
Bible 1611.Com / Sluice Box Adventures.com / Old Paths Bible Ministries © 2008
The ideal Biblical pattern for marriage is set in
Genesis 1-2. Though the stepparent stepchild relationship is less
than the ideal, it is modeled in the Bible. Giving examples from the
lives of Esther, Joash and Timothy, it shows a godly stepparent as
filling a gap in a child’s life, and playing the part of a kinsman.
This is a picture, or type, of Christ coming to redeem his people.
• The Two Questions
• Mordecai The Bible Believer
• Mordecai The Great Stepper
• The Stepper Relationships
• The Near Kinsman
• The Redeemer Kinsman Is A Type Of Christ
• The Response Of A Bible Believing Child!
• Standing In The Gap Before The LORD For The True King!
• My Dearly Beloved Son Timothy
• The Taking In Of: My Dearly Beloved Son!
• Offences Come … The Plague Of Divorce
• Children Deprived By Divorce
• The Single Parent Curse
• Back At Shiloh Cemetery
• The Very Next Best
• Be A Great Stepper!
The Great Stepper
Lerna, Illinois!
In the second week of June of 1998, my wife, my son, and I ... stood
there before the graves of Thomas and Sarah Lincoln at Shiloh
Cemetery, Lerna, Illinois. We were enduring the full strength of a
hot sweltering central Illinois summer day.
There came into my mind many cascading thoughts about these two
people in those brief moments spent there.
"I wonder what they were
like? I wonder what they went through in their life? I wonder if
they were true Christians? I wonder what kind of parents they were
to Abraham Lincoln?"
Several miles further down that road, we
visited the cabin that Thomas built in the 1840's, and where they
lived the rest of their years on the face of this earth. As we
examined the interior of the two-room cabin, and wandered over the
farm site, an overwhelming desire increased inside me ... to find
the answers to these questions. It was there that I learned that
Sarah was Abe Lincoln's stepmother. This is what I primarily wanted
to know:
"What kind of mother was she to Abraham?"
In Carl
Sandburg's book, Abraham Lincoln The Prairie Years, [Dell Publishing
Company, Inc. 1925 on page 41], I found this recorded.
"His
stepmother was a rich silent force in his life... she understood
Abe's gloomy spells better than anyone else and he named her as a
deep influence in him."
After The Battle Of Gettysburg!
Year’s later in a reply to a preacher of The Gospel of Jesus Christ
who had asked Abraham Lincoln if he was a Christian. Abraham Lincoln
said this:
"When I left Springfield, [Illinois] I asked the people to pray for
me;
I was not a Christian.
When I buried my son, the severest trial of my life,
I was not a Christian,
but when I saw the graves of thousands of our soldiers,
I then and there, consecrated myself to Christ.
I do love Jesus." [Recorded in "Words Of Lincoln." by O.H. Oldroyd,
published in 1875 by Mershon Company on page 154.]
Before we start this message, I want to make several things very
clear.
First: The Bible is the perfect word of God. In the English
language, it is preserved in the Authorized Version of the Bible of
1611 [commonly called the King James Bible]. It is tried!
"The word
of the Lord is tried" [Psalm18:30]. It is pure!
"The words of the Lord
are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified
seven times" [Psalm 12:6].
Second: The Ideal Biblical Pattern For Marriage Is Set In Genesis
Chapters 1 & 2.
One Man - One Woman For Life ... Both Parents ... One Family ...
Bringing Up The Children Together!
Third: The Step Parent Relationship Is Less Than The Ideal!
Fourth: The Step Parent/Step Child Relationship Is Biblically Based.
Now, We Are Ready!
I. The Two Questions!
QUESTION NUMBER 1:
What do Esther, Joash [the king of Judah], and Timothy have in
common? I can come up with at least three things.
1. They believed The Book.
2. They obeyed The Book.
3. They each, in their childhood, grew up in a household where the
presence of one or both of the natural parents was missing [implied
with Timothy].
QUESTION NUMBER 2:
What do Mordecai, Jehoshabeath and Jehoiada the priest, and Joseph,
have in common?
I can find at least three things that they have in
common.
1. They believed The Book.
2. They obeyed The Book.
3. They each
"stepped" into the breech, or hole in a child's life,
and gave of their own selves the necessary nourishment and
admonishment to bring up that child.
II. Mordecai The Bible believer
In the book of Esther ... which is the only book in the Bible that
never mentions the name of God ... is a man who believes the word of
God ... The Bible!
"Now in Shushan the palace there was a certain
Jew, whose name was Mordecai, the son of Jair, the son of Shimei,
the son of Kish, a Benjamite; Who had been carried away from
Jerusalem with the captivity which had been carried away with
Jeconiah king of Judah, whom Nebuchadnezzar the king of Babylon had
carried away." [Esther 2:5-6]
The judgment of God did come upon the
southern kingdom of Judah, and they did go into captivity just as
the true prophet Jeremiah had proclaimed:
"Thus saith the Lord.
Deceive not yourselves, saying the Chaldeans shall depart from us:
for they shall not depart." [Jeremiah 37:9] Mordecai saw the whole
thing coming firsthand! Mordecai was a Bible Believer! And all you
have to do to see if this is true ... is just read the book of
Esther!
"Ye shall know them by their fruits".
[Matthew7:16a]
A True
Bible Believer has that kind of heart that desires nothing more than
to obey the commands and precepts of God that are revealed in
THE
BOOK! Mordecai obeys God:
"doing the will of God from the heart."
[Ephesians 6: 6]
II. Mordecai Fills The Gap
"And I sought for a man among them, that should make up a hedge, and
stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not destroy
it; but I found none." [Ezekiel 22:30]
God is always looking for
someone to stand in the breech before Him
"for the land." The
entrance of sin into the world through Adam has resulted in breeches
in the walls of our marriages, families, churches and nation.
Mordecai saw a need. He saw it ... because of an insight that is
gained by meditating in the Scripture day and night. [See Joshua
1:8.]
"And he brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle's
daughter: for she had neither father nor mother, and the maid was
fair and beautiful; whom Mordecai, when her father and mother were
dead, took for his own daughter." [Esther 2:7] Esther lost both of
her parents. She was
DEPRIVED! And Mordecai stepped into the breech
created by the absence of her parents.
III. Mordecai The Great Stepper!
Mordecai became a great stepper! He took her
"for his own daughter."
And what is a stepper? The definition of
STEP here, according to the
Webster 1828 dictionary is:
STEP, Sax. steop, from stepan,
TO DEPRIVE
Esther became a
STEPCHILD to Mordecai because he made a covenant to
the LORD to "
FOSTER" her.
FOSTER:
[according to Webster] means:
"a nurse or food";
1. To feed; to nourish; to support; to bring up.
2. To cherish; to forward; to promote growth.
3. To cherish; to encourage; to sustain and promote ...
Mordecai became a
FOSTER-FATHER: "
One who takes the place of a
father in feeding and educating a child." Do you see how the Noah
Webster 1828 Dictionary shows how tightly inter-related step parent
and foster-parent is? The term
STEPCHILD is a child
DEPRIVED of its
parent. Esther was
DEPRIVED. Definition:
STEP-CHILD: A child that is
deprived of its natural parent.
IV. The Stepper Relationships!
Stepfather is:
"A father-in-law; a father by marriage only; {the
father of an orphan.}"
Stepmother is:
"A mother by marriage only; a mother-in-law; {the
mother of an orphan.}"
Stepdaughter is:
"A daughter by marriage; {an orphan daughter.}"
Stepson is: "
A son-in-law, {an orphan son.}"
Noah Webster added this note: "In the foregoing explication of step,
I have followed Lye. The D. and G. write stief, and the Swedes styf,
before the name; a word which does not appear to be connected with
any verb signifying to bereave, and the word is not without some
difficulties. I have given the explanation, which appears to be most
probably correct. If the radical sense of step, a pace, is to part
or open, the word coincides with Sax. stepan, to deprive, and in the
compounds above, step may imply removal or distance."
V. The near kinsman!
Mordecai was a near kinsman to Esther. She was a cousin to him: his
uncle's daughter. In the book of Ruth, Mordecai had seen the
redeemer kinsman in Boaz.
"And he said, Who art thou? And she
answered, I am Ruth thine handmaid: spread therefore thy skirt over
thine handmaid; for thou art a near kinsman. And he said, Blessed be
thou of the LORD, my daughter: for thou hast showed more kindness in
the latter end than at the beginning, inasmuch as thou followedst
not young men, whether poor or rich.
And now, my daughter, fear not;
I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my
people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman. And now it is true
that I am thy near kinsman: howbeit there is a kinsman nearer than
I. Tarry this night, and it shall be in the morning, that if he will
perform unto thee the part of a kinsman, well; let him do the
kinsman's part: but if he will not do the part of a kinsman to thee,
then will I do the part of a kinsman to thee, as the LORD liveth:
lie down until the morning." [Ruth 3:9-13]
VI. The Redeemer Kinsman Is A Type Of Christ!
Mordecai was a great stepper! He stepped into the gap, and played
the part of the kinsman, which is a picture, or a type of Jesus
Christ coming to redeem His people Israel. Jesus Christ will come to
redeem Israel and establish on this earth His millennial kingdom at
the end of this age.
"And the Redeemer shall come to Zion ..."
[Isaiah 59:20].
VII. The Response Of A Bible Believing Child!
There was no
"vail" upon the heart of Esther
"in the reading of the
old testament; which vail is done away in Christ." [II Corinthians
3:14b] Even though the Apostle Paul received this truth over six
hundred years after Esther's day, Mordecai had it drilled into her,
and drilled into her ... this precept of Hebrews 13:7 [for it was
written in her heart].
"Remember them which have the rule over you,
who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow,
considering the end of their conversation."
When the orphan Esther
saw Mordecai, her great stepper, who had come to redeem her from her
deprivation in obedience to the revealed will of God, standing in
the gap before the LORD for her sake, she responded graciously in
much thanks and praise to God. Amen!
This reward, or fruit, of her
obedience to Mordecai will forever be evident ... for it is recorded
by the Spirit of God for all eternity in Esther 2:15.
"Now when the
turn of Esther, the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who
had taken her for his daughter, was come to go in unto the king, she
required nothing but what Hegai the king's chamberlain, the keeper
of the women, appointed. And Esther obtained favour in the sight of
all them that looked upon her."
Esther
"obtained favor in the sight of all them
that looked upon her" because Mordecai believed and obeyed
God, and because Esther believed and obeyed God, risking all by
obeying Mordecai even later in her life.
"Esther had not yet
showed her kindred nor her people; as Mordecai had charged her: for
Esther did the commandment of Mordecai, like as when she was brought
up with him." [Esther 2:20]
VIII. Standing In The Gap Before The Lord For The True King!
"But Jehoshabeath, the daughter of the king, took Joash the son of
Ahaziah, and stole him from among the king's sons that were slain,
and put him and his nurse in a bedchamber.
So Jehoshabeath, the
daughter of king Jehoram, the wife of Jehoiada the priest, [for she
was the sister of Ahaziah,] hid him from Athaliah, so that she slew
him not. And he was with them hid in the house of God six years: and
Athaliah reigned over the land." [II Chronicles 22:11-12]
God wanted
someone to fill the breech in the wall for the nation. Joash, an
innocent and defenseless child, needed someone who would be willing
to step in ... and save him from being killed by a wicked woman.
SELF ...
LESS ...
NESS would be needed ... rooted and grounded in
the very truth of Luke 9:23.
"And he [Jesus] said to them all, If
any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his
cross daily, and follow me."
Johoiada and his wife were looking
forward into time by faith ... to some future event ... to the
future Savior ... that would be coming to redeem Israel. They were
Bible Believers! They would far rather
"step in" the breech ... no
matter the danger ... and
"parent" Joash, and bring him up
"in the
nurture and admonition of the Lord." [Ephesians 6:6] The fruit of their
obedience followed them, for as long as they lived, Joash as a king
did right.
"And Joash did that which was right in the sight of the
LORD all the days of Jehoiada the priest." [II Chronicles 24:2]
IX. "My Dearly Beloved Son" Timothy
When we preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ to souls, some will come
to Him. And the ones that come to Christ ... because of our leading
them to Christ ... become our spiritual children. In Acts 16:1, we
learn that Timothy's natural
"father was a Greek", yet it was
through Paul's ministry that Lois, Eunice and Timothy got saved. For
this reason the Bible in II Timothy 1:2-6 shows the claim of the
Apostle Paul over Timothy as his son.
"To Timothy, my dearly beloved
son: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God the Father and Christ Jesus
our Lord. I thank God, whom I serve from my forefathers with pure
conscience, that without ceasing I have remembrance of thee in my
prayers night and day; Greatly desiring to see thee, being mindful
of thy tears, that I may be filled with joy; When I call to
remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first
in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded
that in thee also. Wherefore I put thee in remembrance that thou
stir up the gift of God, which is in thee by the putting on of my
hands."
Again look at the principle found in Ezekiel 22:30.
"And I
sought for a man
among them, that should make up a hedge, and stand in the gap before
me for the land, that I should not destroy it; but I found none."
We
can now see how this truth, established in Ezekiel 22:30, had found
a certain spiritual fulfillment in the Apostle Paul standing in the
gap before God by going to the Gentiles, and preaching the Cross of
Calvary and hazarding all, so that he might win some souls. For this
self .. less ... intention, Paul's ministry was:
"To open their
eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of
Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and
inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me."
[Acts 26:18]
The Apostle Paul was [figuratively speaking] a Great
Stepper! Timothy saw Paul, as his spiritual dad, for this very
purpose: to nourish him, and to disciple him in Christ. [See Act
16:1.] Paul's response is recorded in I Timothy 1:2.
"Unto Timothy,
my own son in the faith: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God our
Father and Jesus Christ our Lord."
X. The Taking In Of: "My Dearly Beloved Son!"
In Mark 1:11, in Matthew 3:17, and in Luke 3:22 is this witness:
"This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased." God's Son,
Jesus Christ had no earthly father! He was begotten of
THE FATHER by
the
HOLY GHOST. [See Hebrews chapter 1 and chapter 5.] In Matthew
1:20-25, we see the careful, and complete obedience to the
revelation of God by Joseph, concerning his discovering of Mary
being with child.
"Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise:
When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came
together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph
her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick
example, was minded to put her away privily.
But while he thought on
these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a
dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee
Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy
Ghost.
And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name
JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins. Now all this
was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by
the prophet, saying, Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall
bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which
being interpreted is, God with us.
Then Joseph being raised from
sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him
his wife: And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn
son: and he called his name JESUS."
Instead of
"dumping her",
"he
rose up from his sleep, and DID AS the angel of the Lord had bidden
him, and took unto him his wife ... and HE [Joseph] called his name
JESUS." Joseph took the part of a father ... in bringing up Jesus.
Joseph was a
GREAT STEPPER! And legally, within the narrow
definition of Webster ... was a
STEP-Father. Remember a Stepfather
is:
"A father-in-law; a father by marriage only; {the father of an
orphan}."
Joseph made a covenant to the LORD to "
FOSTER" Him. Joseph
for the next thirty years ... stepped in ... fostered ... stood in
the gap ... fed ... nourished ... supported ... cherished ...
promoted ... encouraged ... sustained ... a child who was not his
own natural child ... but treated him as if he was his own child ...
no matter the personal cost to himself ... no matter the sacrifice!
XI. Offences Come ... The Plague Of Divorce
It has been
NOW for several generations that
DEATH is no longer
THE
PREDOMINATE REASON FOR STEP RELATIONSHIPS. Now this brings us to the
single most important issue that is tearing down the walls of our
homes today.
DIVORCE IS THE ISSUE!
Earlier in this message I stated
that the ideal Biblical pattern for marriage is given in Genesis
chapters 1 & 2. One Man - One Woman For Life ... One Family ... Both
Parents ... Bringing Up The Children Together! The
DEPARTURE from
THE IDEAL is because of the entrance of sin into the world through
the first man ... Adam. Since the turn of this century ... we are
generation by generation, getting further ... and further ... from
our biblical foundations.
WHY? [I believe it is obvious.]
It is
because of our national sins ... of turning from the God of our
fathers ... and of throwing
THE LORD OUR GOD ... out of our homes,
out of our schools, and out of our government. We have removed
THE
OLD LANDMARKS! We have gotten rid of
THE BIBLE! We, as a nation,
will not allow
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS to be posted in the public
schools. We will no longer teach
ABSOLUTES! We will no longer have
THE GOD of
THE BIBLE OVER us.
We are plain and simple ...
REBELS!
There is no question about that. It is no wonder that our marriages
are no longer regarded with sanctity, or as
"till death do we part."
Our
DIVORCE FOR ANY REASON mentality [which is one of our wicked
national sins], is destroying the family, and scarring, and
crippling our children.
"Woe unto the world because of offences! for
it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the
offence cometh!"
XII. Children ... Deprived By Divorce
"But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in
me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his
neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea."
This verse
from God's
BOOK pronounces judgment ... to the guilty parents, or
parent,
WHO OFFEND: by promoting the destruction of their own
marriage, and thereby, ...
DEPRIVING the children of enjoying the
basic biblical unit ... the family. The family ... is where both of
the natural parents raise up the children to The
LORD. If one of the
natural parents is missing, because of Divorce, then an offence has
occurred!
Woe to that parent, or parents, who have done so! It would
be better for them to have a millstone hanged about their neck, and
to be drowned in the depth of the sea, than to offend innocent
little children by hindering them from coming to Jesus Christ. That
is how God sees it concerning the offences committed against our
children.
Divorce impairs the ability of the children to come to Him
for their salvation.
"Take heed that ye despise not one of these
little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do
always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven. For the Son
of man is come to save that which was lost."
XIII. The Single Parent Curse
Now, we have in this country a
SORRY condition, or plague, as a
result of all these divorces. The plague is called: the single
parent family. This is where one parent ... alone ... tries to raise
children without the other parent. This most often results in
failure ... because the children need both a father and a mother ...
in order to enjoy emotional and spiritual growth ... so vital and
necessary to reach to adulthood. God intended from the beginning ...
that it would take two to raise the children up. The highway ... to
successfully raising children to fear and know The
LORD ... is
fraught with the many dangers of living in this sin-cursed world.
Trying to go it alone with this great responsibility is to face
almost certain disaster.
The Absence Of The Father results in:
• The heritage of the Father not being transmitted to the next
generation.
• The protection of a Father not being felt by the children.
• The admonition of the Father not being applied, thus ruining the
children.
• The nurture of a father being withheld, causing malformed
children.
The Absence Of the Mother results in:
• The heritage of a Mother not being given to her children.
• The loss of the second line of defense in the home ...when the
father goes off to work.
• The hardening of the hearts in the children.
• The loss of gentleness and tenderness sensed by the children.
• Raising children in the single parent ordeal ... is like the ox
cart trying to head down the road with one missing wheel!
XIV. Back At Shiloh Cemetery....
There was something else I found at Shiloh Cemetery that day. So
many of those weather worn tombstones gave a witness to the single
most significant reason for the children losing a parent, or
becoming orphans in the nineteenth century. It was because of Death.
Death had laid claim to so many of their parents.
Remarriage,
because of death of the spouse, was virtually the only reason why
children would know the Step relationships.
STEP PARENTING was
noble. When Sarah Bush Lincoln came to her new home in Indiana to
mother Thomas Lincoln's motherless children, she knowingly and
prayerfully, had entered into a commitment before God to nurture
those children as her own. We can learn from the historical
narratives that she was a true and faithful in her commitment to her
stepchildren.
Sarah Lincoln had picked up where their natural
mother, Nancy, had left off because of her
DEATH. I now no longer
wonder about what kind of mother she was to Abraham Lincoln. She was
a
GREAT STEPPER! Look at the fruit! Remember, it was years later
when Abraham Lincoln, our sixteenth President of The United States
of America, said the following when he trusted Jesus Christ for his
personal salvation after The Battle Of Gettysburg:
"When I left Springfield, I asked the people to pray for me;
I was not a Christian.
When I buried my son, the severest trial of my life,
I was not a Christian,
but when I saw the graves of thousands of our soldiers,
I then and there, consecrated myself to Christ.
I do love Jesus."
Factor this in!
"His stepmother was a rich silent force in his
life... she understood Abe's gloomy spells better than anyone else
and he named her as a deep influence in him."
No doubt! Part of the
seed sown in his life by others, brought forth fruit in bringing
Abraham Lincoln to Jesus Christ, was in part, seed sown by his
step-mother, Sarah Bush Lincoln.
XV. The Very Next Best ....
If you are a Step Parent, which is not the biblical ideal ... but
the very next best,
Then: Make a covenant to the
LORD to
"FOSTER" your Step Children!
For how ever many years you have with them ... be a
GREAT STEPPER.
You: stepped in
... to foster
... to stand in the gap
... to feed
... to nourish
... to support
... to cherish
... to promote
... to encourage
... to sustain ... a child who was not your own natural child ...
but to treat the child as if he [or she] was your own child ... no
matter the personal cost to yourself ... and no matter the personal
sacrifice!
Be a Great Stepper!
Step-Children!
Do
YOU ... as a Step Daughter ... or as a Step Son ... have these
three things in common with Esther, Joash [the king of Judah], and
Timothy?
1. They believed The Book.
2. They obeyed The Book.
3. They each in their childhood grew up in a household where the
presence of one, or both, the natural parents was missing.
1. Do you believe The Book?
2. Do you obey The Book.
3. Do you honor and appreciate the nurture and admonition of Someone
Else who volunteered to step into the breech ... left by your absent
natural parent, or parents?
Step Parents!
Do you as a Step Father, or as a Step Mother have these three things
in common with Mordecai, Jehoshabeath and Jehoiada the priest, and
Joseph?
1. They believed The Book.
2. They obeyed The Book.
3. They each
"stepped" into the breech, or hole in a child's life,
and gave of their own selves the necessary nourishment and
admonishment to bring up that child. They entered into the fray ...
knowing up front ... the holy calling.
1. Do you believe The Book?
2. Do you obey The Book?
3. Are you ... A Great Stepper?
Are you
"stepping" into the breech, or hole in a child's life, and
giving of your own self ... the necessary nourishment and
admonishment to bring up that child. Have you entered into the fray
... knowing up front ... the holy calling.
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